As you may be able to attest, navigating your way through a divorce is rarely a pretty picture. Often, while a seemingly beneficial solution to marital woes, divorce requires a fair share of compromise, flexibility and sacrifice. If you and your ex have children together, divorce may be even more complicated, but it does not mean that sharing custody has to be dreadful. At Fowler Bell, we are experienced in helping families work through divorce even when the situation is less-than-ideal.
If you and your spouse have settled on sharing custody of your children, you may be questioning where to go from here. Learning what behaviors are conducive to a positive experience and which are not, is something that will develop with time and experience. However, the Huffington Post shared some simple things you can do from the start to begin creating the foundation for a pleasant outcome. Some of the things you can do include the following:
- Do not argue over who gets to keep what when it comes to your child's possessions.
- Always practice flexibility, especially in times when plans require modification which may throw your schedule off.
- Never speak unkindly about your ex in front of your children.
- Do not fall into the trap of feeling entitled. There may be times when circumstances require the rules to be modified. Understand that often, your ex is probably doing his or her best. Do not expect tit for tat.
- Keep communications simple and straightforward with your ex to avoid unnecessary drama.
By incorporating these behaviors early on in your shared custody experience, you can set the tone for a healthy relationship between you, your ex and your children. For more information about child custody, visit our web page.
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